Out of My Own Heart of Darkness
January 28, 2008
My mother passed from this earth a year ago tomorrow. As many of you may have noticed, I took an almost year-long sabbatical from blogging. By Mother's Day last year, it became clear to me that I just couldn't go on blogging about the ins and outs of my days without feeling like it was all too trivial compared to the pervasive grief I was feeling. I had to give myself some time to heal. So, I did.
I thank all of you for your prayers and notes of encouragement over the year. They have held me in good stead. I want to let you know that I am now eager to get back to blogging and I have been tinkering with my blog a bit in preparation for my return. And I do so love to tinker! I look forward to catching up with all of you. God bless you, my dear friends.
August 2008 Update: Thank you all for your sweet comments below and your patience. I'm almost back. I'm just trying to get things together for our 2008-2009 school year. I will probably post something "homeschoolish" for my first real post back in the blog world. ;)
Bostons!
May 9, 2007
Very Nearly Wordless Wednesday
Ed. 11
We decided to take Banjo for a play date this week and I, naturally, brought my camera along. There were thirty Boston Terriers running amok in one backyard. Truly more fun than a barrel of monkeys.
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Banjo & Friend Dancing
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Banjo's New Best Friend Benny
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Banjo Takes a Break
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Benny & Friend Share a Stick
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Yet Another Pretty Girl!
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Rare
April 28, 2007
Part Two: Nature
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NATURE, the gentlest mother,
Impatient of no child,
The feeblest or the waywardest,---
Her admonition mild
In forest and the hill
By traveller is heard,
Restraining rampant squirrel
Or too impetuous bird.
How fair her conversation,
A summer afternoon,---
Her household, her assembly;
And when the sun goes down
Her voice among the aisles
Incites the timid prayer
Of the minutest cricket,
The most unworthy flower.
When all the children sleep
She turns as long away
As will suffice to light her lamps;
Then, bending from the sky,
With infinite affection
And infiniter care,
Her golden finger on her lip,
Wills silence everywhere.
Emily Dickinson (1830-86)
Blossom quit taking naps when she was six weeks old, so this is a rare glimpse of my child sleeping. She had been up all night at a sleepover and, although she fought valiantly, she finally succumbed to sleep in our backyard swing. As the sun slid down the sky, I began to wonder if she would continue there into the evening. She arose at dusk, though, never knowing I had taken her picture.
I'll Fly Away
April 13, 2007
Beau, the girls and I are taking a little family vacation this week. I wish I could tell you about all the educational aspects of our little foray and include photos, but that will have to wait. We are first and foremost getting away to have some quiet time together as a family. Since the loss of my mother, I have been relentlessly pushing people away from me including my own husband and children. I haven't really cried about things, but I wouldn't even know what to cry about if I could.
My mother and I had a complicated relationship. I wish I could tell you what a wonderful mother she was because, in turns, she was. But then, it would feel like a half-lie. And a half-lie is almost always or usually very nearly a full lie. If I tell you of the other topsy-turvy, spinning turns of my life with my mother, I would feel like I was betraying the good in her. She was a woman living her life as best she could on this planet. How can I criticize that?
If I tell you how much I want my mommy right now, you would assume I meant my mother. I assumed I meant her. Now I am not so sure.
I feel so lost. I want someone to hold me, rock me back and forth and softly, through my great heaving sobs, tell me that everything is going to be okay. Someone who won't care that I am getting her shirt all wet with my tears. And I want to stay there as long as I need to stay there. Not until she tires of it all and plops me back down on the hard wooden rocker all alone. I want to be able to cry myself to sleep and wake up still in my mother's arms. But not really my mother.
My husband wants me to get on with my life. To buck up. To be the adult. I don't want to be the adult right now. I want to have a great, screaming meltdown in the middle of the supermarket floor just as the cart is already half full of groceries and everyone is staring and muttering that someone really should do something about this child.
My children want me to help them with their math problems. To fix their dinner. To clean the tub. I want someone to do those things, too. Someone to make sure I have fresh sheets on my bed and a clean dress laid out for tomorrow. Someone who knows where my shoes are.
Where is she? Where is this person called Mother. Who is this person called Mother? Why is everyone looking at me?
Wild Violets
April 4, 2007
Very Nearly Wordless Wednesday
Ed. 10
What is it?
It's Birdie's own springtime perfume concoction.
God's Will
I know, I know where violets blow
Upon a sweet hillside,
And very bashfully they grow
And in the grasses hide---
It is the fairest field, I trow,
In the whole world wide.
One spring I saw two lassies go,
Brown cheek and laughing eye;
They swung their aprons to and fro,
They filled them very high
With violets---then whispered low
So strange, I wondered why.
I know where violet tendrils creep
And crumbled tombstones lie,
The green churchyard is silence-deep;
The village folk go by,
And lassies laugh and women weep,
And God knows why.
Robert Louis Munger
For My Secret Sister & All Other Concerned Citizens
March 24, 2007
I have been feeling a bit blue lately. I think I am having a delayed reaction to my mother's death. That is why I haven't felt up to blogging. Spring is almost here, though. I think. One day it will be seventy degrees and the next it is in the fifties. I would like to think we are past any danger of snow. At least I hope we are.
If you could keep me in your prayers, I would really appreciate it. This has been a very long and difficult year for me. It has put a strain on all of my relationships and I am having to focus my attentions on repairing the damage as much as it is within my ability to do so. I am looking to God to supply me with what I don't have. And I am hoping that the people I love in my life will be willing to meet me half way.
Note to Secret Sister: Thank you so much for remembering me with little surprises at my door each week. Your notes have especially uplifted me during this time. Please do not think that I have forgotten you in my prayers.
